REMINDER: You are allowed to rest

Resting is something I struggle to do at times. It’s so incredible important though.

Being overly busy is a trauma response I am all too familiar with. Feeling the need to be busy all the time is a trauma response and fear-based distraction from what you’d be forced to acknowledge and feel if you slowed down.

I lost my dad when I was 15 years old. The following school year I was in every extracurricular activity I could be in, I academically lettered (I struggled in school before this), I varsity lettered in both dance team and concert choir. I was also working as a manager at subway, and honestly working more hours than any 16 year old should.

This is my first moment I can pick out this kind of busyness and avoiding slowing down to feel. It’s not the last time I experienced this either.

I still hear from others I do too much or they don’t know how I do it all. Honestly, it’s kinda like I’ve been wired this way. I find I’m more productive the busier I am. But that doesn’t mean I don’t rest. I have learned how to be mindful of my schedule, manage my time, ask for help but I still need to be constantly aware of this.

If you also find this to be how your wired, and especially if you have experienced trauma, here is a list of ways to slow down and rest.

  • Time away (did you say vacay?!)

  • Permission to not be helpful (for my people pleasers)

  • Something “unproductive” (tv, video games, etc.)

  • Connection to art and nature (MY FAV)

  • Solitude to recharge (my not so fav... social butterfly here)

  • A break from responsibilities (adulting is hard)

  • Stillness to decompress (slowly getting better at this)

  • Safe space (@thehivemn)

  • Alone time at home (does cleaning count?)

I hope you find some humor in how I relate to some of these. Rest. We need it. It’s ok to slow down and I see and hear you when you feel it’s hard to do so.

#HerReclaimed #TheHiveOfWaconia #BusynessIsATraumaResponse #SlowingDownIsHard #RestIsGoodForTheSoul #ItGetsEasierWithPractice #ProgressNOTperfection

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